Ways to last longer during sex.

The amount of time a man lasts in bed is very subjective. Some surveys say the average time from beginning penetration to ejaculation is 3 minutes, whilst others say it is 7 minutes. Most claim that a woman needs 15 minutes of penetration to reach orgasm, whilst others state that many women cannot in fact reach orgasm through penetration alone, and need clitoral stimulation to come.

In my experience, women like it when a man can last long enough to start out slowly penetrating and then building it up until he is thrusting at a good pace and finally can't control himself. Even when the woman doesn't come through the penetration itself, it is a big turn on for her to think that her pussy is driving a man uncontrollably wild.

Another subjective point in the how long should sex last debate is the speed of thrusting. I have tried to last longer in the past by doing really slow penetration, thinking hey - I can go for quite a while like this. Unfortunately, women need a decent speed of penetration to actually get enough friction down there to make it worth while for her. The average thrusting speed is around 1 thrust (all the way in and all the way out) per second once the woman is warmed up, building up to two strokes per second in the final throws.

So, what if you are a minute man and you would like to last longer and please your girlfriend, and - lets face it - feel more like a real man. Well, I want to provide you with some tips that I have found that help quite a lot and also recommend some things not to try.

Give a woman a good orgasm before you think about penetration and she won't care how long you last.

If you need a few tips on going down on a woman in style, then please read through my tips on giving a woman oral sex.

Once she has come, you can penetrate her to finish yourself off and you will have the bonus of an extra engorged vagina to slip into!

Wear a condom - This will reduce the sensations quite considerably and you should be able to last 50 - 100% than riding bareback.

This works best when you are in a relationship where you aren't long-term partners or married. It will be expected that the man wears a condom anyway, simply to protect from STDs. If you are in a long-term relationship, the chances are that you will have stopped using condoms and therefore putting them on again may feel quite odd. You could try it out by telling your parter that you want to do it with a condom so that she doesn't have to clean up after penetration, and that you will take care of everything - eventually :-)

Masturbate before sex to make the penetration last longer.

Either do this by yourself in the bathroom before you hit the bedroom, or integrate it into the sex, perhaps getting your girlfriend to jerk you off before or whilst you give her oral sex. Then when she is done, you can go for round two with your less sensitive penis. When I do this, I can really control the urge to ejaculate a lot more and therefore last quite a lot longer.

Practice the start-stop and the squeeze methods

These are best studied alone and practised 3-4 times per week. These methods will help you to recognise when you are approaching orgasm and enable you to stop or slow the pace momentarily a few times during penetration to make it last longer. I have found that although this training works, you need to give it a lot of time, and it can also get in the way of passionate sex, as you have to ask your partner to slow down or pause.

These techniques (stop-start and the squeeze) are good for those of us who had a strict religious upbringing that taught us that sex was bad and meant that every masturbation session was done with an urge to get it over with as soon as possible. With these techniques, you are teaching yourself to last longer rather than getting it over with before getting caught.

Desensitising spray to last a lot longer during penetration

These usually contain lidocaine, a local anastetic. I have a very sensitive area on the underside of the glans, and no matter how hard I train with the stop start and squeeze, when that area gets rubbed by the inside of a nice warm pussy, the race is over. I have found that by applying just a little spray to this area alone, about 15 - 30 minutes before sex, I can lost a lot longer. Some people use the spray all over their penis and deaden the sensation altogether, but I prefer to be able to actually feel as much as I can, without losing control.

Another thing to note is that you should use the spray well before sex to make sure that it is absorbed and that none of it rubs off onto your girlfriends vagina. If it does, she will lose the sensations too and if she can't feel a thing either, then you are both just burning calories for nothing.

For that reason, I don't recommend desensitising lubricant. You can guarantee that you will deaden the woman's sensations as well as your own if you do this. And as I mentioned above, that kind of defeats the purpose.

Make sure that you are entering a well lubricated area.

If you push into a tight dry vagina, not only is it unpleasant for it's owner, but it can also feel quite rough on your penis and this pain may trigger your brain to get things over with as soon as possible.

So, if your partner has trouble lubricating naturally (even after hours of foreplay), then use some lube. It will make things go a lot smoother.

There is another option that is becoming quite talked about over the internet and that is the use of anti-depresants to control P.E. - In my opinion, you don't want to be using medication as anything but the last resort for coming too early. Unless of course it is making you really depressed. If it is, then you would be effectively killing two birds with one stone.

Practice penetration and delay techniques with a fleshlight

There is one final thing that I have found to be quite useful. It is called a fleshlight and it is a pretty good stimulant of a woman's vagina. You can practice all manner of strokes and timing with the device without boring your girlfriend. As you practice having sex with the simulated pussy rather than your hand, when you move on to the real thing, there isn't such a big difference and it is easier to maintain the endurance that you have built up.

How long do people really last during sex?

One last thing, when people say that they can last for 30 minutes. Try this (with your pants on). Lie on the bed and pretend you are having sex with someone. Start a timer. Keep fake humping the invisible blonde that wants you so bad for as long as you want. Keep your eyes closed and really imagine it (but don't get too carried away). Now, once you have built up a sweat and your arms can't hold up your weight any more and you call it a day, take a look at the clock. If you have been going for more than 5 minutes, I will buy you a pint.

Sex can last for hours and hours, and sometimes it should. But the penetration part is always going to be between 2-5 minutes. If you get up towards 5 minutes, everyone involved will think that it lasted a very long time.

And on a final note, if you have finally build up the stamina of a greek god and find that your partners starts attacking a known spot (like "a finger in my ass makes my come right away" or "sucking on my nipples gets me off in a second"), that is your cue to get it over with. She is saying - hey, that felt good, but I am starting to ache and pretty soon I am going to have friction blisters, so come now please (because I can't come through intercourse or perhaps I can, but i don't feel like it today..) Women are complicated things...

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